A Provisional Ethos for Interpersonal Interaction

Over the course of my life I've tried to reconcile the various conflicting aspects of my personality. I've always been an introvert and something of an intellectual, but in my many years of almost complete antisociality, I've become intensely focused on my own feelings, unable to comprehend the emotions of others and powerfully frustrated by those who demand that I should. I want to react to others as a Spock-like figure of logic, yet I would despise anyone who tried to deal with me on that basis, or worse yet tried to demand that I behave that way when I was not in a mood to do so. I've grown up to be a very moody and unstable person, and it infuriates me to deal with people who can't comprehend how I feel, yet I also get sick of them expecting me to know how they feel when they refuse to just tell me in plain English.

It might seem as though these desires simply contradict each other, and are typical of my manic-depressive nature, but I've always believed otherswise, and I think I've finally hit on how to express the underlying truth which connects these seemingly irreconcileable opposites. Basically, if I were to boil my ethos in this matter down to a single concrete statement, it would look something like this:

"Your feelings are the real you; they are everything that makes you yourself, and are more important than anything else in your life. But they are also uniquely your own, and no-one can or should ever fully comprehend them."

On this basis, I would speculate that it would be best if all people could deal with each other on a basis of respectful distance, not expecting to know them completely or be known by them completely. Imagine that they are in fact emissaries of a foreign nation, with whom you must be cautiously respectful of their culture while recognizing that they are just never going to be speaking quite the same language as you, that the experiences which make them who they are have simply made them too different, and that there will always be a certain level of misunderstanding. Patience and detachment are key to success in such relationships; you should not assume that someone who says something that sounds insulting actually intended to insult you, nor should you assume that a compliment is sincere and untinged with sarcasm - you should avoid all such assumptions altogether, and always work patiently to attain greater clarity in all such communications.

Yes this will waste a lot of time and be unpleasantly formal, but I think it'd be worth it to put a stop to all the bullshit interpersonal drama that makes life such a soap-opera at times, and impedes the process of actually living it.

EDIT (about 3 hours after the initial post):
To expand on this a little more, what I'm talking about isn't necessarily "feelings" or "emotions" - it might be more accurate to say "perspectives", which can include ideologies as well as sensitivities. This also ties into my pseudo-religion, in that I believe the only reason why the difficult business of living should have to be done at all, is that somehow, our individual and flawed perspectives on the world are in some fashion cosmically necessary, and so we must treasure these feelings, beliefs and ideas as being the purpose underlying our lives. This therefore suggests that it is crucially important that we respect one another's right to feel differently, for it is the whole reason why the other person needs to exist - if you had all the answers, other human beings would not be necessary, you could just piss off into your own solipsistic paradise forever. But somehow, here we are, so I choose to believe it is because we're somehow meant to be what we are, and that includes our capacity to disagree.